Understanding You Partner
Think you might be really impressing your lady in the boudoir? If you're the type of man who thinks banging away like a jack hammer is going to cut it, I hate to break it to you, but it most definitely is NOT the way to orgasm for her! If you really want to create a genuine and great sex life then it's most important that you try to understand how her mind and body works, and if you really have no clue where to start, here are a few pointers for you ...
Don't assume orgasm is more difficult for women! Women can orgasm just as fast as men BUT you really need to be using the correct technique; clitoral stimulation is a must, so take time to explore this area with your partner and don't just assume you know what they want. Another point on orgasm - can you really tell if we're faking it? How about taking it out of the equation altogether and make it absolutely certain that if she doesn't reach orgasm it isn't any kind of issue?
Don't be worried/afraid/offended if she brings out the lube, just because a woman isn't "wet" doesn't necessarily mean she's not aroused - there are many factors that play a part here, most have nothing to do with you!
Don't assume that one size fits all, what your ex loved - another woman might really dislike. Use your ears (not just your penis), and you'll get an understanding of what your partner finds a turn on. Remember that sex isn't just physical, for us women - we do love a bit of mental foreplay, a great chat on date night will do it! Never a truer word was spoken when someone said "If you want great sex, you're going to have to talk to us..." .
You're very welcome!
Hannah Hunter
